The past few weeks have not been fun in the parenting department around here.? Our sweet lovey little boy had turned into a bit of a pill to deal with.? Transitions have been extra tough and we’ve seen a return of the food throwing.? We could tell the child we were going to a candy factory and he’d scream about it.? He’s been a total cling-bot and won’t be more than 2 steps away from us in any public place.? It’s been trying to say the least.
One of the congregation members at our church was so sweet yesterday and let me unload all of this onto her.? I felt bad for taking up so much of her time, but she listened with grace and reassured me that everything was going to be ok.? Both she and a co-worker said to see what the doctor had to say about his behaviors and seek extra help if need be.? You know things aren’t quite right when I would consider such a thing.
This morning we had the boy’s 4 year check-up and yes, he screamed the whole way there, cried in the waiting room and in the exam room.? Of course I don’t like going to the doctor either so that was understandable.? I spent some time talking with the doctor about the reaccurance of food throwing and this new Ultra McScreamy behavior and he helped to put my fears at ease.
It isn’t so much that I don’t believe what other moms, grandmoms or friends have to say.? What people don’t remember is that not only do we deal with typical 4 year old we also have the added layer of Post Institutionalization.? I don’t want to throw that around at every little bitch and moan the boy has, but it is something we always have to keep in mind.
The doctor’s verdict is that yes, this is the boy being 4, but with a twist.? He still holds fast to the boy being exceptionally bright.? There may have even been mention of starting kindergarten next year (not going to happen at this point).? At each stage in his development his senses and everything change.? Therefore he must go through the whole process of testing the limits to make sure everything is still the same.? His advice… parent as we always have.? This may sound like a big fat duh, and some of you are probably going, “um, I told you so.”? (Please don’t say that to me, I may smack you)? What you have to realize is that while I am a creative person, I’m also very analytical.? I have to know why and how it works.? The way the doctor explained it made me understand better than the, “he’s just being 4,” answer.? This is the same reason we took him to the adoption specialist with similar behavioral issues.
So onto how the rest of the check up went.
His legs are growing like crazy.? The kid is all legs, skinny as they may be.? Hernia surgery recovery 100% perfect (yay! Russian doctors).? Blood levels are above average for a 4 year old so he’s well nourished (yay me).
He weighs 29 1/2 lbs (in the 6th percentile)
and is 38 1/2 inches tall (12th percentile
He’s still small for his age, but is growing and that is what matters.
And while you’re at it… check out these costumed cuties.