On getting kicked out of my house

I have severe mommy guilt.? I rarely take time to do anything for or by myself and when I do I am horribly guilty.? Fact is, I like spending time with my boys.? I miss them terribly when they aren’t around.? Even that little screamy one.? For the last (almost) 16 years of my life the trusty husband has been my best friend.? This is no offense to Heather or Jake, but this guy goes shoe shopping with me.? Since the trusty husband works all week and I work in the evenings during the week, Saturdays and Sundays are our time to spend together.

We may do nothing or we may be adventurous and go somewhere exciting.? It doesn’t matter as long as I spend it with him (and that little boy).? For instance, we spent part of the day yesterday cleaning the cars.? He called it “Project Wassatsmell.”? His car (my precious Bug) had a funk about it that made me gag a little when I got into it.? I doused that sucker in about 2 gallons of Febreeze, Windex and Murphy’s Oil Soap.? Now it smells like pretty butt.? But see what I mean.? We had a great time and didn’t spend a dime.? We were just together.

Then I had this opportunity.? Willow was hosting a “girls night out” (which wasn’t really just for girls).? I wanted to go, but am horribly awkward in social situations.? I had invited TacomaChickadee and Jenny, but TC couldn’t go and I hadn’t heard from Jenny.? I was lamenting about what to do.? Do I go to a party with a bunch of people I don’t know and risk making an ass out of myself, or worse spending the evening sitting in a corner or do I just bag it and stay at home with the trusty husband and McScreamy.? The trusty husband looks at me and says, “you are going.”? He is much bigger than I am so arguing with him does me no good.

Lucky for me Jenny called about an hour before I was getting ready to walk out the door and said she could join me.? Oh how grateful I was.

So I got out.? I socialized with people I didn’t know.? I had a good time.? I drug Jenny to an event filled with photographers and artists.? I only hope she wasn’t too bored.

This was a good experience for me.? Thank you honey for kicking me out of the house.

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  1. My hubby is my best friend and I jealously guard our weekends together. There is a mommy’s group I signed up for that does a lot of weekend events (because a lot of moms work) and I’m considered weird because 95% of the time I won’t attend the weekend functions – it is my time with my family and my hubby’s time with the girl so I don’t see the point in taking away from that to see mommy’s that I honestly don’t know or like that much. I would rather do it during the day when he is at work.

    When I worked (before the girl came home), I was very judicious about planning things on the weekends because we wanted that time together. People think we are weird and think that the longer we are married, the less we will feel that way.

    But good for you for getting out and good for your hubby for making you. We all need to do it now and then. Usually my price for leaving the girl and hubby is movie popcorn.

  2. Ree says: Reply

    Nights out every once in a while are good for the soul.

  3. Ree says: Reply

    Oh, and I love March’s header.

  4. Ah, GNO! One of the best things around! Good for you for heading out and braving all those strangers! It’s definitely a good thing – for your mind and your body. Just doing something different can change your current attitude for the best.

    I’m looking forward to our GNO this coming weekend – the new chocolate lounge followed by dancing (to work off all those amazing truffles). I can’t wait! I’m starting to feel socialized due to having friends over the last two weekends – last night’s game of Jenga managed to get a little out of hand, with Carey getting hit in the nose, Carey kicking Greg in retaliation, and a (small) glass of Merlot falling onto our beige carpet. I hadn’t realized Jenga could be so exciting! I’m hoping to have pictures up soon….

  5. Nancy says: Reply

    Hey Elle,

    just wanted to pass along that costco has kids Crocs for 18 bucks in an assortment of colors. Great for kids who are outgrowing theirs.

  6. I feel the same way. Except for the screaming kid part. Nice to get out sometimes, and even nicer to come home. 🙂

  7. Jenny says: Reply

    Didn’t we do good smoozing? Well, you are fancy business owner who likes to do in-trade type thingies, making you popular. I don’t have much to offer as a nurse…but it was fun! Thanks for inviting me, as I always like checking out other people’s friends 🙂

  8. Good to meet another socially-awkward homebody. Figuring out what to wear and what to say to people you hardly know always seems almost not worth the trouble but always ends up being surprisingly fun. My husband also kicks me out the door when the opportunity arises.

    BTW, I knew an “Elle” in college who started out as “Lauren.”

  9. mom says: Reply

    Glad your other half pushed you out the door! Life’s to short to worry about what other people think and honestly…they’re probably just as paranoid as you are. Live!!!!!

  10. Bev says: Reply

    My dear daughter-in-law,

    Your bloggy friends should know the truth about you . . . you are truly great at meeting new people and “schmoozing” in groups of those you know, no matter what you perceive about yourself! ( I should know since you’ve been a wonderful part of our family for the past 16 years!) Part of it is that you are genuinely interested in learning about what people do and they luv that! Also, you are a very interesting person to be around, with all the things you do as well as your creativity!! Plus you went to Willow’s (aka “she-who-knows-no-stranger”) gathering, so I’m not surprised that you had a good time. D & O had some quality “guy” time, so everyone’s a winner! Happy Monday! MIL

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