If you have been a long time follower of any of the blogs I write (or have written) you will know two things about my child.? 1) he likes to throw food and 2) he rocks.? There has been no shortage of blogging about it here, here, here and here.
It took an adoption specialist to tell me that it was ok for this behavior.? That was almost 2 years ago now.? The child has been home 2 1/2 years and he still rocks himself to sleep and awake.? He is almost 4 and a half.? It doesn’t seem to be effecting his ability to sleep in any way.? He slept in until almost 8:30 this morning.? Which might explain why he didn’t nap.? The rocking no longer bothers me.? It is a part of who he is.
What does bother me is that the child will not get out of his bed.? I should have worse things to complain about right?? I shouldn’t say that as a total blanket statement.? He gets up in the morning (on the weekends).? Otherwise nothing.? And why would this be disturbing?? Think about these two instances that have happened in the past week.
Sunday morning the boy slept in.? The trusty husband and I were sitting on the couch watching TV waiting for him to get up.? He finally gets up and comes out to the living room.? “Mommy, there is something up with my pillow,” he says.? “Really,” I reply.? He then insists I go see.? He crawls up into his bed where I find a blood pool on his pillow and sheet.? I (as calmly as possible) call Derek.? Upon further inspection there is blood smeared all over the child’s PJs and some on his hands.? I start inspecting his head, ears, back, everything.? We questioned him if he hit his head in the night or what the hell happened.? We get up close and keep looking him over and figure out that he had a bloody nose in the night.? There was no blood on his face when he came out to get me.? Somehow the child either slept through the incident or just didn’t get out of his bed.? We guess he simply slept through it, but I have no clue as to how anyone could sleep through that.? Either way, he didn’t get up to get us for help.
The second thing happened this afternoon.? Blessedly my 4 year old still naps.? I will hold onto that nap until I have to send him off to Kindergarten if I can.? He still needs it and on most days he actually does sleep.? Today was a little different.? I put him down at 1:00 like usual, checked on him at 1:40 and he was still rocking.? I told him he needed to take a nap and left the room.? At 2:20 I checked again and he was still rocking and quite hard at that.? I knew he hadn’t slept because if he does sleep it is for at least 1 hour.? I told him he could get up and I returned to my desk to finish my work.? A few minutes later I could hear yelling from the other end of the house, “IIIII”m DOOOONE!”? Apparently the child got straight out of his bed an went for the toilet.? I talked to him and asked if he didn’t nap because he had to go potty.? He informed me that was the case.? I have explained to the child that he can get up whenever he has to use the potty.? That is just fine.? He just won’t do it.
He also told me at breakfast that he “went to the scary place” last night.? This is his wording for his bad dreams.? He tells us now that if he doesn’t rock to sleep then he goes to the scary place.? All of this simply breaks my heart.? It makes me think about what his life was like before coming to our family.?? Forced to stay in a bed and fearing the sounds in his own room.