It has occurred to me that there is a whole conglomerate of adoptive mothers and adoption advocates that were very anti-Obama.? To each his own I suppose.? The thing that got me is that many of those pro-adoption people were anti-Obama because he is pro-choice.? Moreover they actually voted for McCain because he is pro-life.? They didn’t think about the gagillion asshat things that came out of McCain’s mouth.? The hundreds of Freudian slips he made, the proclamation he made that fundamentals of our economy were strong.? They simply looked at one thing.? Pro-life versus pro-choice.? Those people didn’t elect to listen the the very important part where McCain said that he was very much against abortion even if it came down to the “health” of the mother.? And yes, he used air quotes.? This man willingly threw aside the health of a woman.
Now before you go getting your panties in a bunch let me clear the air and say that I am not one of those “sleep with whoever you want and get an abortion if you get pregnant kinds of people.”? I don’t like the thought of abortion.? But I also don’t like the thought of a 13 year old girl getting raped by her uncle and winding up pregnant and expecting to carry that baby.? There are exceptions out there.
I am also an advocate for adoption, but not the baby Olympics kind.? I am an adoptive mother, but of the international sort.? I am an adoptee because of a choice.
In 1975 a woman got pregnant.? She also knew that she didn’t have the means to care for a baby.? Because this incident occurred 2 years after Roe v Wade she had the option of a choice.? If she had gotten pregnant 2 years earlier that baby may have been “taken care of” with something as crude as a coat hanger.? Roe v Wade gave that woman a choice and as a result I’m sitting here writing this.? I am very aware that things could have gone the other way.
Just because I am an adoptive mother or an adoptee doesn’t mean that I am automatically pro-life.? I do believe that safe sex practices should be the first option.? Because that whole abstinence only training… yeah, that works out well.? Just ask Sarah Palin.? If an unwanted pregnancy occurs I believe adoption is the best option, but I also know there are instances where adoption is not the right option.? Especially in cases involving the mother’s health.
So please, don’t lump all people in the adoption circle into the pro-life circle.? There are some of us who still have a brain in our heads.
I will add a little bit here and say that just because I am pro-choice does not mean that I personally would choose abortion.? I know that sounds silly coming from someone who a) can’t get pregnant and b) who has been married for 12 years.? I doubt that at any time in my life I would be faced with this issue, but I’m not the only person in this world.? There are millions of women in this country and they should have the same choice that I have.
Now don’t get me started on Prop. 8.