On September 5th we will celebrate our 2nd Gotcha Day.? You just said, “wow!? 2 years already?” didn’t you?? I just said, “it’s only been 2 years?”? Yep, 2 years the boy has been a member of our family.? A year in review is a post for another day, possibly Gotcha Day.? I’m here to discuss attachment.
One of my biggest pet peeves is parents who come home with their internationally adopted children and within a week start saying that little Johhny is already attached.? I’m here to tell you friend that little Johnny is far from attached.? He may be comfortable, but he is not attached.
The day we arrived in Seattle from our trip to pick up the boy my SIL put out her arms to take the boy from me.? Every fiber in my being said no, don’t give up the baby.? But he went to her.? This was so against the attachment parenting rules it isn’t even funny.? But after you’ve been traveling for 35 hours straight your brain ceases to function properly and you just want to unload the baby you’ve been schlepping since Zurich.
She held him and within two seconds he wanted me back.? Now some people would have jumped up and down and been sooooo excited and said, “oh, my little boy is so attached to me.”? In reality he was comfortable with me.? That’s it.
What did make me do an Arseneal Hall fist throw was a few weeks ago we were in a restaurant in Vancouver, WA with aforementioned SIL and part of the meal the kids get to go with the waitress to make their own sundae.? The boy knew this and we asked who he wanted to go with him.? He elected his father… shocking.? When the waitress? pulled out his chair to escort him to the sundae bar she put out her hand for him to hold.? He looked at her and said, “no, I think I’ll hold my daddy’s hand.”
At that moment it finally sunk in that my child is nearly attached.? (and notice I say nearly, because we still deal with some PI issues, but that’s for another day)? 2 years later I am comfortable.? Comfortable with his attachment.