I appreciate the well wishes and helpful advice. Our afternoon went much better than the morning. We did a little holding time and that alone makes a huge difference with my child.
I was the alone mom last night as the trusty husband was out of town for work. So the boy and I made pizza for dinner (which he didn’t throw at my head). We always seem to have home made pizza when the husband is out.
Just as a sanity check for me I am going to call the Univ. of WA adopt med center* this morning to make an appointment. We’ve been talking about this for some time because of the rocking. As Serena put it, it is better to have your worries put to rest as opposed to ignoring them and have bigger issues later. My honest to god feeling is that he’s just being two.
You have to see the big picture with this child. He is extremely intelligent. This isn’t a mom saying her son is bright because he picked up English so fast. This is real live smart. The boy can do things that a typical two year old shouldn’t be able to do. The child forgets nothing. Everyone we come across tells me how smart he is. Some of the stuff he pulls out stuns us. Now couple that with an on-going speech delay and that is grounds for some frustration. His brain knows what he wants to say, but doesn’t have the skills to articulate it yet. Stories come out in random words.
Example: this morning he was telling me about our trip (on Sunday) to the Science Center. The story went like this, “Auntie G seat-belp, Oleg seat-belp, Mama seat-belp, Daddy seat-belp.” Later “Auntie G Seattle. See dino-naur.” He’s getting there, but just can’t put it all together in a complex string of words.
The grape episode would have sounded like this if he could of verbalized it. “Yes Mama, I would like the grapes, but I just bonked my head and it hurts so please make it stop hurting first.” For the record I had done my best to make his head stop hurting prior to giving him the food. But that wasn’t the first time he’s pulled the “I’ll say no even though I really want it.”
All in all he does show all the signs of healthy attachment. I am confident that our biggest issue is just the communication. Imagine being at a conference for work where you are the resident expert, but the conference attendees don’t speak the same language and you haven’t yet learned pantomime. It would piss you off too. Then add the fact that you have the biggest tooth ache of your life. I’m thinking you’d be an asshole too.
I will call the doc, but for now my motto is patience. When all else fails… there’s always booze.
*Appt is scheduled for next Friday morning.