Close the door

Yesterday afternoon at about 2:00 Bev Lindholm passed away.  I don’t want to say that she lost her battle with brain cancer because she gave it one helluva fight.  In the end she knew that all of us were taken care of and that she didn’t need to worry.  She died peacefully with her husband and daughter at her side.  We had hoped that she would survive until Wayne (my BIL) and Diana (her sister) arrived, but we spoke to both of them and they were at peace that they weren’t there.  Dad told Mom not to worry about us and that it was OK to go.  With that she took two long last breaths and made her way home.  She joins of myriad of family who welcome her with open arms.

Bev was a woman who was larger than life.  In the car on the way to Olympia yesterday I asked my friend, Kerstin, “how does Bev Lindholm die?”  She was one of those people that you thought would live forever.  She was the person you called when you needed help with something.  She was the person you called when the world had beaten you down and you needed to be lifted back up.  She was the person that told you you can do anything you want.  She was your strongest cheerleader.  She was a wife, mother, daughter, aunt, sister, grandmother and friend.  She was a mentor, music director, teacher, spiritual advisor, comedian and pro extension chord destroyer.  Most importantly she taught me how precious life truly is and to not take it for granted.  She left behind her partner of 53 years, 3 strong children who grew up to be amazing adults, 2 children-in-law that she was so kind to allow to marry her children and 2 beautiful grandchildren who will always know how amazing their Grammy was.

I am going to miss her deeply, but I am happy that she is at peace.  So we close the door on room 1009.

12 Comment

  1. typelittlea says: Reply

    My deepest condolences for your loss, Derek, Lisa and Oleg, and all who loved her, which, judging by your lovely tribute, I’m sure are legion. She sounded like a special lady>

    Rest in peace, Bev.

  2. Lena says: Reply

    Oh Lisa, I’m so sorry for all of you. What a lovely letter to Bev.

  3. Tricia says: Reply

    Beautiful post Lisa.

    So sorry for your loss ~ Bev sounds like a very special woman, mother, wife and friend.

    For my very special family members who are gone, I like to think that they are only really gone physically because they live with me and my family through spirit, traditions, sharing memories and the lessons I live my life by.

  4. Eileen says: Reply

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  5. mom says: Reply

    Spoken well, Lisa. She will be greatly missed. Mike and I both, are so sorry for your loss.

  6. I am so very sorry for your loss.

  7. I’m so sorry. She sounds like a wonderful person.

  8. Charlie says: Reply

    So sorry Lisa. It sounds like your family were lucky to have had her. And she sure sounds lucky to have had such a loving family. Sympathies to you all x

  9. Jenny says: Reply

    Oh, I am just so sorry for you and your family’s loss.

  10. I’m sorry for your loss.

  11. Ronda says: Reply

    A wonderful tribute. I am so sorry for your loss and the profound loss to your family. Rare people leave a mark that while filled with love also includes loss. I wish you peace in your suffering and may you find the healing balm of love from those around you.

  12. Beautifully written, Lisa. I’m so sorry for your loss.

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