Comments on: Just when you think you have it figured out

By: The anti-child : Life of Elle

The anti-child : Life of Elle — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 02:54:44 +0000

[...] First, he didn’t nap (because he had to go poop and we’ve already discussed the not getting out of his bed thing). Second, he was riding his bike outside and all of a sudden he started crying. Screaming [...]

By: John

John — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 01:55:58 +0000

Sad. Although difficult to think about as we wait on a referral from Russia, we are thankful for you and others who have gone before us that share these stories. As much as I want to believe that we will have no such issues to worry about, I realize that it is likely that we will. It breaks my heart to think about these poor children with no one to love them, while people who want a child to love so badly sit and wait.

By: Lee

Lee — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 18:15:07 +0000

Awww…baby! Hugs from Auntie Lee. I tell B that if she can tell me about her bad dream and we can talk about it, it usually goes away and she won’t have it anymore. Kind of gives her a feeling of control over the scary stuff. She also includes this every night at the end of her prayers, “And please let me have happy and sweet dreams. Amen” That has helped her a lot, too.

I can’t wait to see you all!

By: Jenni

Jenni — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:19:50 +0000

That is heartbreaking.

By: Renee Martens

Renee Martens — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 06:32:41 +0000

Ooo… I can’t even type now. Try and make heads or tails of that last comment. Gawd….

By: Renee Martens

Renee Martens — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 06:30:46 +0000

The entire concept of his remembering a past, one which this family wasn’t present in itself hurts. To think something frightened him when he was a baby while and none of us could help… a heart breaker. We love him and what ever is ingrained on his little brain from those days… will slowly wash away. This is one of those moments when it hurts us more then him. Sadly, I’m heading for a glass of wine.

By: Kim

Kim — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 03:49:30 +0000

Oh Elle. That is so sad… I can only imagine. Bigs hugs to you.

My little guy always, ALWAYS asks where the Mommy is. When I ask him where he thinks Mommy is, he says “gone”. If he sees any photo of a sad child or animal he gets tearful and tells me they’re sad because they can’t find Mommy. I listen, reassure him that I’m not leaving, hug him and try not to tear up. For 2 1/2 of his 3 1/2 years I’ve been there constantly… what more can I do?

I used to think that if we could just “be there” enough for them, it would get better. Some days, it would seem not.

By: tacomachickadee

tacomachickadee — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 03:18:12 +0000

*lots if hugs*

By: rachael

rachael — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 01:32:10 +0000

ah, that makes me sad too. esp. when there was his mom, waiting for him on the other side of the world, willing and ready to rock him to sleep, if only she could have…